There has always been some crossover between the Goth and fetish scenes, probably stemming from punk's tendencies towards 'perv' fashion, e.g. bondage straps, PVC, suspenders and collars. There are combination Goth and fetish events, too, and these crossovers have led to a style of Goth fashion that your parents really won't like - fetish Goth.
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It is, however, possible to add elements from this style to your look without shocking your parents (too much) or offending little old ladies - stiletto-heeled boots, a spiked or padlocked leather choker, or a hint of fishnet stocking can be added to an ensemble to give a nod to fetish fashion.
There is no particular type of music associated with this style, although Industrial is popular, and there are many bands with risque names, for example Lesbian Bed Death (example song title: Goth Girls are Easy), Alien Sex Fiend (OK, so that one's a stretch), Android Lust, Bloody Dead and Sexy, Boudoir, Grotesque Sexuality and Leather Nun. Black Tape For A Blue Girls' most recent album, 10 Neurotics, focuses mostly on themes of sex, fetish and lust.