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Some Goth music is more parent-friendly than others, of course. More upbeat, bouncier bands like The Cruxshadows and Ashbury Heights, or music with a 'cultured', classical, ethereal or neo-classical feel to it, like Qntal and Cocteau Twins, is likely to be more acceptable than the jarring strains of Alien Sex Fiend (for example).
Exploring the world of Goth music, as well as helping you to feel involved in the subculture, may be helpful when it comes to 'undercover Goth' fashion. A Bauhaus patch on your bag, jacket or jeans will 'identify' you as someone with an interest in or knowledge of the subculture to other Goths, but those with less knowledge of alternative music (e.g. your parents, hopefully) will be unaware.
|Keeping styles simple stops your look being 'stereotypically Goth'.|
Steer clear of stereotypical Goth clothing to allay their suspicions! Avoid fishnets (often seen as sexual), corsets, miniskirts, rips, spikes, studs, grommets, straps, excess safety-pins and things with rude words on. I have mentioned before that some styles of Goth are more acceptable to parents, such as perky Goth, romantigoth and Victorian Goth - classic, elegant styles (or pink) are a world away from the baggy hoodies and bad whiteface make-up that your parents are probably worried about.
Useful wardrobe items for the budding babybat:
- a simple black blazer or cardigan (or even a coloured cardie with black accents, my fave is candy-pink with black bows and trim)
- several modest black or dark-coloured skirts (or black jeans for the male babygoths) in various styles - ruffled, velvet, pleated, plaid, whatever. Knee-length or slightly longer is demure enough to please parents, usually.
- shirts/T-shirts/blouses, in various colours - black, red, purple, pink, white and grey being the most obvious.
- black shoes, black pumps or SIMPLE black boots without tonnes of buckles and huge platforms.
- a pair or two of black jeans or trousers.
- opaque tights (for the girls, obviously) in colours such as black, red and purple.
Another tactic would be to stick with your usual wardrobe and gradually add Goth-style accessories such as studded wristbands, lace gloves, cross necklaces etc. With unusual make-up and those aforementioned Goth band patches (or badges - you can make your own if you, like me, happen to own a Badge It! machine...), you should be able to achieve a relatively dark look without making your parents nervous.
Remember, adding colour is likely to throw them off the scent. You could wear a block-coloured shirt with a black skirt/trousers or introduce colour by integrating a pattern such as check, gingham, plaid, spots or stripes.
|Adding colour (in this case brown), using simple accessories and keeping clear of spiky things keeps your style unoffensive|
Source: Steampunk Couture
Another typical aspect of Goth that they may be looking out for is black make-up or nail varnish. Colours such as silver, purple, red, burgundy, blue (midnight blue, sapphire blue, or a very pale metallic blue would be especially lovely), green or even brown on eyelids or nails will give you an equally striking appearance but without screaming "GOTH" to your concerned oldies.
Best of luck!