Goth has a habit of getting under people's skin when they find it, it creates a sense of belonging and at least provides some drama for us to gossip over. Some Goths like it so much they consider it a lifestyle, it's how they live their life and the subculture reflects a lot of it. Personally I don't find it's a lifestyle but to say it's simply music or a style of fashion would be wrong, it's more than that. I guess I'm sitting in the middle, it's not a lifestyle but it's more than just a piece of clothing. To me, it's form of escaping and something to write about in my blog. However, my life doesn't depend on it and I do have a few top 40 secrets on my iPod.
I personally think that too much of anything is a bad thing but it depends on what Goth does for you. For example, I use Goth to escape so as you can imagine I don't need to indulge in it 24 hours a day. However some people do feel that need, some because it makes them feel like themselves and others simply because it makes them happy. It's their choice to be happy and they took it, if it makes someone feel good then generally you shouldn't mock them. Although if it's collecting Furbies I will have to giggle. But how many of us are sat at bland desks with a bland outfit to match everyday? How many of us are poking fun of those "try hards"? How many of us are secretly jealous? I know I feel resentful of those who can wear whatever they want everyday and those who actually can be bothered.
But on the other hand I think my eye rolling is sometimes justified, in an attempt to be permanently Goth some people forget about being appropriate. Please, never assume giant foam soles will be acceptable at a funeral. Besides doesn't abstaining from Goth allow it to be more special? My dry cleaning bill would be a mile long if I wore it everyday and I'm not devoted enough, I love so many other things. My identity is not based around one single interest, I'm also a proud Feminist and secret platypus lover.
What you would define as a lifestyle anyway? And is Goth a lifestyle for you? There really isn't enough posts about this.
Amy's note (the OTHER Amy, that is...): This guest post is brought to you by Amy of Juliet's Lace, a blog I have raved about often. It was sent to me with the subject header 'Guest bloggy woggy with a froggy, it's also not foggy', which is the kind of subject header I HIGHLY approve of.
I consider myself one of those 24/7 Gothy types - if I don't bother to Goth-up in the a.m. (although I have casual days like everybody else) I feel unconfident and just, well, not me. However, trying to adjust every area of your life to make it 'more Goth' borders on silly mallgoth territory, and a T-shirt-and-jeans-day won't actually kill you. As Amy says, it depends on what Goth does for you as to how much you want to involve it in your everyday life. In other words, we're not all Adora BatBrat, and that's OK.