*Sighs* I'm getting tired of people 'borrowing' my work and posting it as their own. Really, if you're going to rip me off, at least take note of my spelling. Yes, Quizilla user who cannot spell, you know who you are, and I don't like you. At least it's stuff from the crappy old Piczo site. XP
I am not in the greatest of moods today; as I'm sure I've previously mused, a day of sunshine brings out all the idiots from their lairs and away from the lure of daytime television, so I have been on the end of daft comments and general Goth-baiting all day. Thank God for headphones. I used to be pretty much de-sensitised to stupid remarks, I don't know why it's bothering me so much at the moment!
- People who think that 'casual Goth' isn't Goth. Or, more to the point, net.Goths and forum jockeys (who are probably sitting at the keyboard in a white polo shirt and grubby boxers) who waste their time making other Goths feel bad for not dressing to the nines to walk the dog. Y'know what? Nearly every Goth in the world probably owns a pair of jeans. Not everyone wants or is able to wear corsets and fishnets every single day. Dressing up is great! Dressing down is fine too! In fact, some of my favourite outfits are very casual, they just happen to be black. I don't think this makes me 'less of a Goth'. In fact (guilty confession coming up) I own a pair of purple Uggs. And when I have a hangover, I like to wear them to work with black skinny jeans, a studded belt, and a purple T-shirt with a big black cross on it. I OWN UGGS, OK?! Bite me, ubergoths.
- Interscene rivalry. Us alternative types should stick together, surely? After all, we all borrow from each other (who's never been inspired by rockabilly, Gothic Lolita, punk, fairy kei, Visual Kei, scene, or other alternative fashion genres?). And, more importantly, we're all 'freaks' together. So snarking at members of other alt cultures - really, how is this different from mainstream types calling YOU a weirdo? Yes, there's a Lolita in the Goth club. Maybe she likes the music? Maybe she's a Goth AND a Lolita? Why can't we all just get along? I have been on the receiving end of interscene snarkery, and I do not like it.
- I'd like to see more representation of fellow 'prudish' types amongst alt models. At times it feels like if you are a stunning alt girl who wants to get into modelling, you have to take your clothes off. I'm sure this isn't accurate and for those who would find it less liberating or even downright uncomfortable to be photographed unclothed, it would be perhaps appealing if there were a few more well-known alt models who felt the same.
- People who wear trainers to clubs and other events. Aargh! No, you don't need to own a pair of Demonias, and yes, I have just been ranting on about how casual streetwear is a Good Thing, but honestly, call me elitist, but I don't want to see sweaty Nikes in a Goth club, no matter WHAT obscure band T-shirt you are wearing. Ditto Converse. I love Converse, I own hundreds, but I strongly feel that casual wear is casual wear, and people should dress appropriately to go to a club.
- People who complain that there are no Goth events in their area, and then when one is arranged, refuse to attend. Whyyyyyy do people DO this?
- Hair falls that don't match your hair. There are possibly examples out there that prove me wrong, but in general, at least one of the colours in your falls should match the hair that is actually on your head. Failing this, your natural hair should all be covered up. Or shaven. Otherwise you look piebald. And kind of silly.
- Men looking better in skirts and make-up than me. Well, no, I don't mind that so much - except when they insist on standing next to me. Look, if I wanted to stand next to somebody with better legs than me, I have plenty of options, and you're not even the same sex - which isn't playing fair, dammit!
- Overfriendly German chappies. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against Germans. Or men. But at every club I go to, I seem to get relentlessly chatted up by very persistent Germans. One of them even managed to dance very badly at the same time, which I guess was kind of impressive. Probably not in the way he was intending, though.
- Being videoed or photographed by strangers without permission. We 'weird-looking types' get this all the time - I don't need it from my fellow Goths as well. Particularly not when I am dancing drunkenly, thanks very much, I know that video is out there somewhere waiting to come back and bite me.
- Cliqueishness. At a particular town near me, all the Goths know each other, and so will only talk to each other at events. Please make some effort to welcome club newbies, it doesn't take much and you could make a new friend. Behaving in a snooty manner towards someone who is new to town, or visiting from a different area, is really just plain rude.