Day 27 - The worst thing you did to a newbie.
Um... I do try not to be mean or rude to newbies, there's no need for it! Mallgoths grow up into perfectly nice members of the Goth community and there's no reason to put them off by being spiteful or unkind because we were all daft, eyeliner-besmeared little creatures once. Babybats? (Apparently I have actually been misusing the term babybat, Gothic Charm School informs us that it refers to someone's age NOT their knowledge about the subculture; I do apologise.) I AM still a babybat in either sense of the term, being under-21 and not being a well-socialised Gothling (hard to do in a small town), so what would be the point in being unkind to people in exactly the same boat as me?
BUT. These things said, please remember that I created the guide as a sixteen-year-old overeager babybat (as I am so fond of saying) to harangue the kind of people who post on the Cure's YouTube videos with comments such as 'THIS ISN'T GOTH ITS EMO GO CRY EMO KIDS' (not a direct quote, but you get what I mean), so my intentions in the beginning were not entirely pure, and I did once recruit a posse of fellow Gothy Piczo users whilst in a fit of righteous rage to back me up in an argument with another Piczo-er about whether or not one band or another were Goth. *facepalm*
Now we shall not speak of this, ever again.
Day 28 - Do you consider yourself an eldergoth?
No! For starters, I'm too young to be an eldergoth at 20, and I've been involved in the Goth scene for five years, which compared to acquaintances of mine who are in their late 40s and discovered Goth right at its beginnings in the 70s and 80s, is little more than the blink of an eye. Ask me again in ten years!
Plus, as mentioned above, in many ways I am still quite a babybat, as living in a suburban area with no Goth scene whatsoever my contact with others in the subculture is predominantly online, which as a commentor on this site previously pointed out is not the best way to experience and learn about Goth culture and its community. Whilst I can (and do) strike up a conversation with another darkling in a shop or on the street, put me in a club situation where everyone is dressed up to the nines and I suddenly become horrendously shy!
By chance I recently met a charming eldergoth couple outside of the internet, who have been encouraging me to put a slice of my paycheque towards travelling to London to visit the clubs there. By chatting with these Goths, I have learned that whilst my online research has given me up-to-scratch musical knowledge, my lack of socialisation with other spooky types means I have been missing little things - simple stuff, like which music magazines occasionally feature a Goth-themed pullout.
I am looking forward to becoming more involved with the subculture offline by getting out and about to more clubs and events, but I am also terribly nervous, perhaps because I've read so much and heard so many horror stories with regards to cattiness, elitism and cliqueishness amongst Goths. At events I have been to in the past I have met some very nice people, so I know that some reports of snarking are somewhat exaggerated, but I hope that if you see this anxious babybat at a club near you, you will come and say hello!
Top: Omen, some shop in Camden, £20
Skirt: vintage shop, £5
New Rocks: skip
Bracelet: Superdrug Halloween, £3.99
Necklace: Coven of Witches, about £10
Listening to: Intimate - Godyva