Long, long ago, Tenebris in Lux requested a post on the links between Goth and the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. We all know by now that there are a lot of stereotypes surrounding Goth and sexuality - no, not all Goths are gay. Not every man (Goth or otherwise) wearing make-up and a skirt is gay. Because often the Goth look, particularly for men, is androgynous or feminised, it is often assumed that all Goth males are gay or bisexual. This is not true.
Stereotypes aside, of course there are Goths who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, genderqueer, etc, etc. In fact, many in the Goth scene have found themselves more able to be open about their sexuality as on the whole the community is tolerant and non-judgemental.
Am I saying that LGBT Goths never recieve any aggro or unkindness from their Gothy peers? No. Sadly there are still some in the scene who are unable to practise what they preach and who are rude and unpleasant towards others, whilst expecting others to treat them with open-mindedness and respect. No subculture or community is full of perfect people.
An article from The Skinny entitled, 'Queer and Goth', says, "Goth or alternative clubs like Ascension, Neon, and Bedlam, to name just a few, have become a safe haven not only for people exploring their sexual orientation but also exploring their gender identity. Among 'traditional goths' women tend to look very femme - long hair and corsets. But their male partners also have long hair and occasionally wear corsets themselves. Nearly everyone wears make-up regardless of sex and more than one brave man wears a skirt.
"Bisexuality is almost the norm among the crowds that frequent Scotland's goth clubs. It's encouraged and even expected that many people will have an encounter with someone of the same sex. This shows a fantastic amount of acceptance and tolerance for bisexuals who often get flack from both sides of the 'fence' for being greedy or indecisive. In goth clubs, bisexuals are so common, they're practically passé." Click here to read full article.
The article suggests that those who are LGBT may feel less safe in 'straight' clubs than in Goth clubs, whether or not they are actually Goth. I think this shows that, whilst Goths may raise their skinny eyebrows at club tourists, they are on the whole a calmer, politer, and less intimidating crowd than those found at a traditional nightclub, and of course less prejudiced against others as a general rule.
I also found a discussion on Goth.net which may be of interest; members have mentioned how Goths are more open-minded and do not shun others on behalf of sexuality.
Opinions on Goths attending gay clubs seem to differ internet-wide. On some forums I found people telling those searching for local Goth clubs simply to head for the gay clubs, as that was where most of the local Goths tended to frequent. Conversely I also found a personal account from one gay Goth who was made to feel uncomfortable at a gay club due to his mode of dress.
This is not something I have much personal experience of as I have been in a hetero relationship for the past seven years - other than stereotype-busting, I don't want to stick my neck out too far on a topic I know little about, so the floor is open to you guys: opinions, experiences, etc?