This week I received a lovely e-mail from Kassandra, who said, "I have seen the many entries regarding the bullying, incidents, discrimination and attacks of "normal" people to members of the Goth community. And something happened to me yesterday; something entirely different from this kind of thing. I was leaving a café where I had just a cup of tea, and upon saying goodbye to the waiters, one of them said to me with a smile: "I wonder what has happened in Heaven for angels to be wearing black". I was wearing a long black lace skirt, a black wool turtleneck (it was cold!), a red and black corset, and a long black coat. I was very surprised by the lovely and unusual compliment (I obviously thanked him profusely), and then I thought: "Certainly I cannot be the only one that gets compliments from people outside of the community".
"And I thought it could be nice to write about good moments that Goths may have had with non-Goths, such as this one. Maybe you could talk about something good that happened to you, or maybe ask feedback from your readers...
"I think that Jillian Venters is right about being polite and gracious; a smile can have a powerful effect on people. Of all the incidents I have had regarding my attire, I have only been once shouted "Halloween is over!". The rest have been people talking to me about my pretty outfit, an unusual hat, or where did I get that jewelry? (I am a Victorian/Romantigoth almost in my forties, by the way).""
Kassandra, by the way, also has a blog which you can find here.
|Black Tape For A Blue Girl|
After reading Kassandra's e-mail I enjoyed thinking over my own positive experiences and I hope you don't mind me sharing a few with you!
- When walking with friends, a little girl came up to me and shyly told me that she liked my shoes. The shoes in question were a pair of New Rocks decorated with flaming skulls, chains, and spikes!
- The same boots sparked off the following comment from an old lady in the theatre, "Are those Gothic boots? Good for you! I wish I'd done all that when I was younger!"
- Recently I was stopped by a lady in the supermarket who wanted to tell me how 'beautiful and striking' my outfit was.
- I love it when friends and co-workers tell me that they 'look forward' to seeing what I'll be wearing when we see each other.
- Random photo ops! I know some people find this annoying after a while but the novelty hasn't worn off for me yet - I have had people ask me to step outside at work to take a quick photo ('because you look so fashionable') and been stopped at a train station in London by a photography student who needed a picture of someone 'unusual'. I just wish I had copies of the photos! >.<