This post is dedicated to a lady named Flossie, who responded to my post Top Ten Goth Pet Peeves with the following: "I understand you're entitled to your opinion and that's totally okay, but I'm a little saddened that you would refer to yourself as a feminist and still say something like that. It's their own choice what to do with their bodies. Nobody else gets to say what anyone does with their own body. Surely we should be trying to change society's backwards opinions about women who like showing off their bodies, rather than criticising them for not falling into place with mainstream mores? Isn't "somebody put some more clothes on, you're all giving my subculture a bad name" just one step away from "put those awful freaky clothes away, they're making the family/school/community look bad"? And I'm sure we've all been there."
What Flossie was referring to was this paragraph: "Why does it seem to be impossible to be an alternative model and not get naked at the drop of a mini top hat? I have nothing against communities like Suicide Girls, and I think some nude or erotic modelling is very pretty. But really, can we have SOME alternative models who don't need to get their boobs out, please? It just perpetuates the stereotype that all us alt girls are sluts. Yes, I understand there is such a thing as being sexually liberated, and I congratulate you ladies for it. Can we have some prudish models now, to balance it out a bit?"
Flossie, you're totally right.
I feel, personally, that as a girl who feels more liberated and beautiful when fully dressed up rather than totally or semi-unclad, I'd like to see more representation of fellow 'prudish' types amongst alt models. At times it feels like if you want to get into alt modelling, you have to take your clothes off. I'm sure this isn't accurate and for those who would find it less liberating or even downright uncomfortable to be photographed unclothed, it would be perhaps appealing if there were a few more well-known alt models who felt the same.
However, I will put my hands up and admit that I feel embarrassed looking back at that paragraph. Flossie has kindly not used the term 'slut-shaming', but it would have been applicable and I apologise. The post will be edited; what I have come to realise in the year since I wrote that post is that comments like 'it just perpetuates the stereotype that all us alt girls are sluts' are not acceptable - women should be able to dress and be photographed however the hell they want without anyone, let alone fellow girls, making assumptions about them.
Once again I apologise, partly for any offense caused, and partly for being an idiot. Thanks, Flossie, for calling me on that.