This is an email I received many moons ago. I have edited it slightly to protect the young lady's privacy, but will add that she was having some personal struggles and that Goth culture had given her a safe outlet of self-expression. As such, I was hoping that some of you could offer further advice for her situation.
"Dear Amy Asphodel,
A shooting happened at a school near me and the person was clearly a Mansonite. My Dad thinks that Goths are bad. I've tried printing him out all your info, what the Lady of Manners (Gothic Charm school) and various other sites say. He thinks it'll lead me to devil-worship and such.
The thing is I've never been happier with myself as a person and I'm getting better grades and all, now that I'm getting into it even more into it. The style I have now is unique and me, because I took Corporate, Neo-Victorian, Lolita, Gothabilly, Punk and Medieval style and rolled it into my closet, I've kept my hair color, I make all my own jewelry.
He says that this cult of death (I tried explaining that we have no leader, therefore are not a cult - and yes we look at death alot, but it's in a continuting of another life/romantic way) He says and I quote "Evil skulks in the dark, and Goths do too." He's threatening to ban me off it entirely, and force me back into mainstream culture. But to do that would mean not just taking away music, clothes, and make-up. It would be sending me back into the Hell I was before, because my spirit feels that this is my true self. In my whole life. My grades have gone up as said before, and I'm no longer being bullied for being bookish and not in up-to-the-second latest trend, and such.
I'm finally happy, and he thinks I'm going down a bad road, just because of what the media, both left-wing and conservative are tell him. I try telling him Goths are more the Victims, I tried talking about Sophie Lancaster and other cases of people killed for being "weird." And he says Goths were resonsible for Colombine, and other shootings like it. At least he cares, right?
Will you help save my way of living and in a way - Me?"