"I'm going to a private college this fall, and they have certain rules. Like the no unnatural colored hair(which I'm okay with because I can still do that during the summer), skirts/shorts have to be so longs, etc. Simple rules right? Well, then they said I can't dress "Gothic". Now, I'm not sure what their definition of gothic is exactly. I mean I know they said no skulls (crosses are acceptable), and I assume like no bats or spider jewelry and such. What I'm asking is what do you suggest for me to be able to dress gothic, yet under the radar. According to them, as long as it doesn't bring attention to myself, it's pretty much acceptable. I'm not sure how skulls draw attention anymore, but hey, it's their rules. I'd greatly appreciate this. I really wanna go to this school because I think it will do me good, but I don't wanna give in at the same time. I understand being respectful, which is why I wanna try to find a compromise." - Brittany.
This is, of course, a variation on the all-too-familiar topic of dratted school dress codes, but I felt I had to post about it because I was amused/alarmed/startled that somewhere in the world there is actually a college that feels the need to state in its dress code that its students can't dress 'Gothic'. I find that bizarre. Dressing Goth hurts no one and (with some common sense applied, e.g. no religious symbols, a toned-down style) offends no one, why on earth forbid it?
However! Brittany, I have read and written numerous posts on how to fly on your little bat wings under the dress code radar... here are two to get you started.
An ensemble from Lip Service
As I learned the hard way in the world of work, oftentimes feeling like yourself is more important than looking 100% Gawthick at all times, and if you don't want to play 'spot the bat signal' with your teachers a handful of T-shirts (polka dot, striped, or a top like this, with a removable skull pin) or blouses with plain skirts and trousers are perfectly acceptable.
As for accessories, there's more to life than bats and spiders (no, I can't believe I just said that either!). Cupcakes! Teacups! Chandeliers! Quotes! Hearts! Cameos! Violins! Roses! Think outside of stereotype territory (says she, wittering on about cupcakes and teacups >.<) and you're sure to find something inoffensive to even the sternest teacher's gimlet eye. Even if you have to limit yourself to lace-trimmed or stripy socks!
Best of luck and enjoy college. :-)
P.S. The Queen of Undercover Goth blogs over yonder.